Bullying is a way of some prat who doesn’t get the attention that they want. and the bad news is, it grows on them. If you have been victimized by some loser here are some tips. they are inevitable and could really really be a big pain in the ass. I say you guys should just pray for them. for they are to be pitied. They have to pull prank just to get attention.
Some bullies are looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want. Most bullies are trying to make themselves feel more important. When they pick on someone else, it can make them feel big and powerful. They come from families where everyone is angry and shouting all the time. They may think that being angry, calling names, and pushing people around is a normal way to act. Some bullies are copying what they’ve seen someone else do. Some have been bullied themselves. Sometimes bullies know that what they are doing or saying hurts other people. But other bullies may not really know how hurtful their actions can be. Most bullies don’t understand or care about the feelings of others.
Bullies often pick on someone they think they can have power over. They might pick on kids who get upset easily or who have trouble sticking up for themselves. Getting a big reaction out of someone can make bullies feel like they have the power they want. Sometimes bullies pick on someone who is smarter than they are or different from them in some way. Sometimes bullies just pick on a kid for no reason at all.
Don’t give the bully a chance. As much as you can, avoid the bully. You can’t go into hiding or skip class, of course. But if you can take a different route and avoid him or her, do so.
Stand tall and be brave. When you’re scared of another person, you’re probably not feeling your bravest. But sometimes just acting brave is enough to stop a bully. How does a brave person look and act? Stand tall and you’ll send the message: “Don’t mess with me. or i’ll kick your ass” It’s easier to feel brave when you feel good about yourself. Feel good about you. Nobody’s perfect, but what can you do to look and feel your best? and make them feel how filthy they are.
If the bully says or does something to you:
Ignore the bully. If you can, try your best to ignore the bully’s threats. Pretend you don’t hear them and walk away quickly to a place of safety. Bullies want a big reaction to their teasing and meanness. Acting as if you don’t notice and don’t care is like giving no reaction at all, and this just might stop a bully’s behavior.
Stand up for yourself. Pretend to feel really brave and confident. Tell the bully “Go to hell” Don’t bully back. Don’t hit, kick, or push back to deal with someone bullying you or your friends. Fighting back just satisfies a bully and it’s dangerous, too, because someone could get hurt. – i say BULLY BACK – there is nothing better than a very award-winning revenge. bwahaha.
Don’t show your feelings. Plan ahead. How can you stop yourself from getting angry or showing you’re upset? Try distracting yourself (counting backwards from 100, spelling the word ‘turtle’ backwards, etc.) to keep your mind occupied until you are out of the situation and somewhere safe where you can show your feelings.
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Hi,
Great post. Thanks for the analysis and suggestions.
You’re absolutely right; never show hurt, pain or fear. Bullies are like sharks looking for victims. Some times, you have to look at them as if they’re worms; but you can’t even waste your time to step on them.
Also, true bullies take kindness for weakness. It only encourages them to pick on you more.
I agree with one exception. Sometimes you do have to fight back. Some bullies don’t learn to stop picking on you until you beat them up. I don’t care if bullies feel good or bad. I care about the people they’re picking on. I care that they stop bullying.
When I plan tactics, I use the image of walking up a staircase. Maybe you start off ignoring them, then you ask them to stop, then you get more firm; you use sarcasm and eventually you may have to fight back. Bullies will show you how high up the staircase you have to go in order to stop them.
Disclosure: I’m a practical, pragmatic coach and consultant. Check out my website and blog (http://www.BulliesBeGone.com). I’ve written books like “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks” and “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids”. Also CDs.
Best wishes,
Ben